TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?" The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you." We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television." There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wa! ke up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."
It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..

RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you."
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.

PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?"Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donk! ey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.
Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..

BE PATIENT
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the li! ttle boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed
suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

Anyone who come across this, all these is so true..give yourself a lifetime to learn all these..you'll be happier than anyone else..i am still learning, hope my other half is learning too...If both parties can learn all these together, there will be such thing as a perfect relationship, perfect love in your case. =)

Today i was reading the past blogs..the blog i have started after being w him n because of him..i realise our start is 90% painful cox of the cling he had w his ex..and his hack care attitude..now aso still have this hack care attitude..haiz..it make him look tt he is nt a sincere person at all lo..i thinkin if he go out wrk w this same attitude..sure die..lol..

Reading past blog make me feel alot..feel abit sad..our happy times r all little unhappy times has more...i know its my fault but nt totally mine cox he has some parts to blame for as well beacuse of the way he handle things n the way he treats people..he is lazy i dont mind, cox i m too but cant possibly lazy of everythin ma..its not gd..its spoils everythin...

I m nt perfectionist in life but kinda perfectionist in love, i noe i cant expect perfect frm him but at least he love me n show the love..hmm..i dont wish to say more aso liao la..jux feel alto by seeing all those blog..i have love him alot frm the day i say ok to him...i nv ever regret it..the only thin i regret is mayb i have said ok too early..too early in a sense tt he does nt really like me alot yet...but due to my character its hrd for me to wait..

Now jux hope i can b a happier person, him as a happier bf of mine, we leading a happier life...loving each other happier n last....n have more happy times n memories..(tts y sometimes i wan to go stupid places w him, zoo, bird park or wat ever la..places where we can take photo n have fun..i wan to create happy times..i m tryin but he doesnt pei he wo..i duno how aso)

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As today is CCN day, All SIP people no need b in lab from lunch till 4pm..lol..so
me, ming,siong,taihock,david,jason after goin mensa for lunch we went play some sports..i was reluctant at 1st cox its damn hot!!!hahaha..
We play table tennis today..heex..quite fun leh..but less den 2 min we sweat li hell cox its very very humid inside the sports hall...omg..i stink lo n every1 stinks..lol

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WOW...WS w the victory hand sign..taihock confidently serve the ball..whahaha..they so pro lo

David artistic bouncy shot

Ming accidentally kena wack by the table tennis racket aniway haha..hit on her nose..so funny

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Still gt alot photo on table tennis to upload la..but lazy..lol...
Realised there is no me, cox i m the photographer while resting.
Okay so after that we went on to the nxt game playing basketball..okay seriously i m scared of balls lo...balls that r dead de..lol..whahhaha

we played ABC pt..shot frm different pt by turn, tt part i forget take photo ar cox i no chance to rest...but den after tt pak n zy join in..they 2 and siong play while we sit there watch...me n ming almost finish pak 100plus cox too thirsty liao..lol..

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What a posture..wth is pak doin..play basketball properly leh...

Pak the ah beng thinkin tt he is very the shuai..yeah..good confident..=)

PAK:"OMG!! THE BALL IS FLOATING!!!"

Pak still gt alot hilarious photo but too many le..going no space liao..lol..pak is so funny..keep it up..

As they were playin the sun gets brighter n brighter, we almost die there. so we hide behind at corner..

Yea~ all squatting in a corner..dyin le..so hot

Jason n taihock brokeback in the corner...lol..oooommmgggg!!!!

okok tts all..put too many photo, my blog li bit lag now liao..tts all Byeeeee

Today went out with baby...today quite happy..gt feeling of our old days..everythin li back to the pure sweetness...v happi..but unfortunately somethin happen which makes my day turns upside down...haiz...dont wish to say wat happen..if baby happen to see dix..he'll noe..

Today went but tix poseidon at the cathay cineplex..we reach li 3+ but bought a 855pm movie..bo bian other timing all sold out

After tt we went ps ajisan makan..shocked tt baby suggested tt..usually i am the one who wanna eat tt...lol..recently i eat v little...one is feel fat le..one is really broke..used to it le la..so nowadays spend v little..today feel guilty lo..eat so expensive...li kinda waste $..but baby wants so be it..i respect his will..

Den we went shopping for caps for baby..hmm none he like..all he say ugly...as we walk out of ps, the entrance there gt insurance agents doin roadshow..lol..they approach us..say "u shop at ps?"something lidat...its fei hua lo..we jux come out of ps lo..duh...den bby hor..veri huai dan..say "no no we dont shop at ps" lol...duh...duh..duh...keke

k now after ps, we walk walk walk to ga jiao uob roadshow from our ex-company...bo liao lo..saw some1 tt is enemy to us..lol..dun wanna mention names but he bye to us n smile li so hrd lo..bth the face..see le feel li laughing man...

den we went walk walk at far east continue shop for caps...all so expensive..cheapest is li 35 bucks lo..nice one is hmm 45 i remember..den followed by 42bucks...siao de..one cap so exp...after finish far east..bby buy cigg den we go paragon coffee bean drink coffee...

la la la..den went back ps..he meet fren..den yeah finally time for movie...lol..somethin happen at this time makin my mood totally gone..but after movie jiu mian qiang hao le..

anyway..OMG...or rather" OH YEAH"--bby kept sayin tt dutin movie so farni lo...lol

Poseidon is a GREAT MOVIE..I like it very very very much...so PEOPLE dont miss it..n dont critisize it if u dont like..cox i'll kill u...hohohoho...

=) END~

Its late but i couldnt slp..too much things in mind..

Its raining now..in fact i m freezing by the cold winds cox of the rain..i really like the smell of rain, i dont know y though..

Sigh.

Its raining now, it shows my heart cox its crying now..i duno wat to do..i am at lost...

How i wish i could run away from home..away from my families, my friends, my love...

I had enough of this life..no matter wat i do i can nv be really happy...

life jux sux so much tt i didnt wan it at all...haiz...so lost so lost....i jux feel li escaping...i m really tired of this life tt i m leading..regardless of wat i m doin..everythin doesnt seems to goes well at all, so fed up!!!

now having mp/sip doing assigned project but basically we are just rotting here.

actually i had nothin much i wanna blog about but its just tt i m too bored, no idea wat to do..

all we do in sch is slackin, waiting for breaks and lunch n clock out time.

we msn alot, waste time by drawing using msn, visit you-tube alot watchin stupid video, eg:hard gay...lol...lame sia..read the colinandkero blog...lol...

den we watch scary movie 4 in lab aso..listen to music...go minclip play game....

as n when do abit regrding project but 3/4 of our time is on other things which exclude projects...lol

k...so long be back later to blog again...now countin 1 hr to lunch time....duno wat i m gonna eat cox i left 4 bucks to last till dix friday..oh my god...kill me..whahhahaa..Byeeeeeeeeee =)